Here is part three of our series for single sisters. Thank you for the encouraging feedback on part 1 and part 2.
Today we are looking at how to “wait” for your husband.
Waiting is rarely easy. I know because I have waited before, and there are still things I am waiting for now. That tension of anticipation without a clear timeline is uncomfortable. Abraham and Sarah felt it too—old and wondering when the promise would come to pass.
Waiting is part of life. At different seasons we wait for a job, for a pregnancy, for a life partner. While this article focuses on waiting for a husband, the principles apply more broadly.
I once read: “waiting is hard when all you do is wait.” If your main goal is simply to sit and wait for a man, you will miss living fully, and anxiety will make you attract the wrong kind of person. The Bible observes that hunger distorts taste (Proverbs 27:7)—in the same way, desperation distorts judgment.
Here are practical, faith-filled ways to wait well:
1. Be full of Christ.
Become so rooted in Christ and so committed to serving Him that anyone who meets you must share that devotion. Practically, this means daily Bible study, fervent prayer, and keeping a prayer journal. Serve in your local church not to be noticed, but because you love God and want Him first. Building your life on Christ is the best foundation you can lay.
2. Be a queen in your own queendom.
Own your life and take responsibility. Live fully rather than waiting for someone to complete you; you are already complete in Christ. Pursue meaningful activities and work that matter to you. Be industrious like Ruth—she chose to go to the fields and work rather than sit idle. Read her story in the book of Ruth for a wonderful example.
3. Work on your character.
This point is crucial. I’ve observed many women who greatly desire marriage yet struggle with attitudes and behavior that drive others away. Outward beauty and skills are attractive, but a harsh tongue, selfishness, or contempt for people will repel potential partners. Often those who are blamed by everyone else are the common factor.
Men may be attracted initially, but they won’t stay when character is lacking. Character can’t be hidden. In Ruth’s story, Boaz heard a good report about her and was drawn to her because others knew she was virtuous. People know your story, and their reports shape how others see you. Which testimony do people give about you? Inner beauty and integrity matter far more than outward appearance.
Bonus point:
Pray specifically about your future marriage. While single I prayed for my family every Friday, using the day’s initial to guide my focus. I regularly asked God for a man after His heart and for a partner who would serve alongside me. I wrote down desired qualities and kept praying. God answered—sometimes in ways I didn’t expect. He may bring a person packaged differently than I imagined, but His answers are trustworthy. When you walk faithfully with God, you can trust He will not give you what is harmful.
That’s why I styled “wait” as “wait”—because waiting should not be passive. It should be living fully while trusting God for the best.
Remember, God allows seasons of waiting for reasons: to teach trust, because we are not yet ready, or because the timing is not right. He makes everything beautiful in its time—faster isn’t always better.
Next Tuesday we will cover what to remind yourself of while you are still single. I hope you’ll join us. God bless.