I’ll be hosting a traditional meeting at my house on Saturday. I made the mistake of telling my girls about it ahead of time. Now, one of the first things they ask me every morning is, “Is the meeting today?” They have been so eager that I keep regretting that I mentioned it. Live and learn: telling kids about plans too early is rarely helpful. Here are the lessons I’ve picked up that help me survive motherhood on busy days.
Never announce plans too far in advance. If you tell your kids you’re going somewhere, hosting a party, or having a meeting, your ears won’t rest until that day arrives. Keep big plans to yourself until close to the time.
Eat treats in private. Have chocolate or anything you want to enjoy? Do it in the bathroom or in your bedroom, away from curious hands.
Keep snacks and cups within reach. Storing their snacks and drinks at arm’s length saves you constant errands around the house. Small conveniences like this reduce stress for everyone.
Create a shared ritual after chores. My girls and I press our palms together and shout “team!!! work!!!” after we finish tasks. It turns chores into something fun and gives them something to look forward to when we work together.
Order takeout when needed. Even if you cook most days, allow yourself to skip the stove sometimes. Order food and stop feeling guilty about it. A simple dinner can be a huge relief.
Tell them stories from your childhood. My girls can listen to stories about me as a little girl forever. I’m running out of tales and sometimes have to call my mom for inspiration, but they love hearing about my childhood.
Keep praying for them. One of the best gifts you can give your children is consistent prayer and entrusting their lives to God.
Laugh often. Don’t be the mom who’s always angry or swearing. Enjoy moments with the little people—childhood is fleeting, and laughter makes memories sweeter.
Apologize when you’re wrong. Saying “I’m sorry” can be hard for a parent, but humility sets an excellent example for your children. It teaches them responsibility and empathy.
Take time for yourself. Shop alone, hang out with friends, or have a mom’s night out. Time away recharges you and helps you return calmer and more present.
Read to them every day. Whether it’s a short story or a longer one, daily reading sparks interest in books. Children who develop a love of reading grow into curious, knowledgeable adults.
Save boxes and packaging for play. Don’t throw away cartons and product boxes immediately. Children can transform them into cars, forts, or puzzles. I cut cereal boxes into simple puzzles and let my girls fit the pieces together—simple things fuel imagination.
Let them splash in the rain (at your own risk). If they play outside during a drizzle, you’ll have a much easier time with bath time afterward—win-win for kids and parents alike.
As for Saturday’s meeting, how do I undo telling them without lying? That’s a real question. I’m considering telling them the plan has changed and explaining why in age-appropriate terms, or moving the event to a later date so their anticipation doesn’t build for nothing. Any strategy that balances honesty with practicality seems best—kids respect straightforwardness, but they also adapt quickly when routines shift.